5 Solid Steps to Get Your EX Back:
If you think that you and your ex are still right for each other, and you are sure what you want ex back, then here are some suggestions for what you can do. These five suggestions will help you respond to your feelings that you want ex back.
1 - If you want ex back, you need to protect your energy from other people and their influences. If you are serious about rekindling things because you want your ex back, then you need to clear your calendar so that you have time for your ex rather than whoever else you are seeing or hanging out with at the time.
2 - You are also going to have to be willing to maintain your dignity. You should not be selling your soul simply because you want someone back. Even if you want ex back, you should never allow your dignity to be lost, but instead you should take the right steps and make the right moves to rekindle things properly.
3 - If you want ex back, you are going to have to be willing to facilitate appreciation for one another. You should appreciate your ex, and your ex should appreciate you. If you do not appreciate each other, then no amount of wanting your ex back is ever going to turn that want into a reality.
4 - You might also want to change the 'script' of your old relationship. Stop tracing the same break-up-and-get-back-together plan with your ex. Consider getting a change of scenery. Escape your problems for a while by taking your relationship out of its normal, worn-out, old, unhealthy patterns in favor of something new and more facilitating of a good healthy relationship.
5 - If you really want ex back, you are going to have to create a shared sense of destiny - ie. that you are both responsible for creating the lives you have as you go along. The couples that tend to work the best are those that take their fate into their very own hands, that is, they accept that they are totally responsible for the kind of lives they end up with.
When you share a sense of destiny, you also literally share similar if not identical purpose, dreams and destinations. This is the glue that will hold you together (all else being well) - everyday stuff that add up to massive, collective experiences and time spent being on the same page. If the important aspects of your life are not in synch* with those of your partner, then you run the risk of diverging from each other slowly but surely until one day you wake up and wonder at the stranger lying next to you.
You often hear this when people separate: "we have grown apart", "we are no longer in love", "he or she changed" ... What this means is that one or both parties didn't see and / or prevent the divergence when it started ... didn't auto-correct to maintain cohesiveness in their JOINT dreams, purpose and direction of Life. It's akin to a road driver crossing the median line but didn't correct his steering, therefore it was only a matter of time before a catastrophe happened viz. a head-on collision with another vehicle, lamp-post, side-bank or worse ... veer off into a steep ravine!
The history you share together, and the memories built upon this is so unique that they naturally result in a cohesive bond. But this bond is not shatter-proof. A relationship breaks down when this bond is neglected, abused or taken for granted. We are all guilty of this because today's world is very demanding and when "we're flat-out busy" it's just too easy to put your relationship on the back-burner or worse ... treat your other half with not enough respect or even outright disrespect ( a case of "familiarity breeds contempt"?).
So when you create this 'shared sense of destiny' make sure you are both on the 'same page' at least in the important areas, such as your core beliefs and value systems, especially the ones that are (within reason) NOT negotiable.
If you really want them back, the five steps mentioned above will offer you a solid start in the right direction. So go ahead and don't be afraid to ... PULL Your EX Back ... for good!
*synch or sync = meaning in agreement