Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Get Ex-Girlfriend Back - Working Through Your Break-up

When you are faced with problems in your relationship, it would be easy to walk away and let it fail, and much harder to stay and work it through.

When you are faced with these issues, to keep it in perspective, think of the way you felt when you first met and the reason you fell in love.

Remember the good and the bad times you shared, and what makes it worth that.  You know it takes two to tango, and this applies to your relationship as well. An one-sided effort is not going to be successful.

Many relationships fail for a number of reasons such as:

·       High expectations generally happen when entering a relationship as both parties view everything through rose-colored glasses. When these expectations are not met disappointment and frustration soon follow. 

·        Financial issues are not taboo between couples. A household budget should be discussed early so you know what is expected of you. It is important to speak up about money issues when they first arise, and not scream about it when you both are angry. 

·        Manage your stress. Recognize what stresses you both out and do whatever you can to not fall prey. Too much stress can hamper one’s ability to think and respond properly. 

·        Compromise and do things as a couple. Go to a tennis match with him and take her shopping, or go on holiday together. Don’t be afraid to speak up and tell your significant other what you want and need. No offence to you guys, but you don’t take hints well, so learn to LISTEN, not just hear!  Part of listening also involves not getting defensive when she speaks to you.  Be genuinely understanding, compassionate and sincere.

·        Spice up your relationship and go out and have a night on the town together. Treat and surprise her with flowers and chocolates for no particular reason.  Apologize if you have done something to upset her. (Now this is going to be difficult for those of you if you have a fat EGO but put that aside if you want to be happy! You can be stubborn or you can be happy - but you can't be both!).  Also surprise her with something that she’s been wanting but do it for “no reason whatsoever” and not because it’s her birthday or Valentine’s day. 

Both of you have to be willing and keen to make this relationship work. Don’t scream, argue, shout or curse, rather sit down, call a meeting and be reasonable and logical about it. Try not to get too emotional, speak calmly when you say what you have to say. Least of all do you start blaming her or regurgitating old hurts and grievances. Now is NOT the time and I have seen too many put their foot in just when their Ex was warming up to the idea that they were truly missed and desired.

There are plenty of tips that can save your relationship, but as with all advice, it may not work in all situations. An understanding of your partner and what your relationship requires can provide you with what you need.
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.
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